Been asking yourself, “Is this a red flag or am I tripping?”
You’re not tripping. You just don’t have the language yet.
The Untoxicify Your Relationship card deck gives you exactly that and the clarity to finally act on it.
Clarity changes everything. Even your love life.
The Numbers Don’t Lie
Here’s what came through during early beta testing:
100%
found the red, yellow, and green framework helpful for reflection or conversation
80%
said the red flags cards were the most eye-opening
80%
said they would purchase the card deck
100%
said they would recommend the deck to someone else
They Said It, Not Me
Early Reactions from people who tested the deck
“The deck helped us address an issue we’d been avoiding. By the end, all my wife could do was laugh and say, ‘You're right. I’ve been tripping.’”
— Married couple
“The deck opened my eyes and gave me the language that was missing.”
— Single Woman
“I’m married now, but this deck would have been so helpful when I was dating. It could have prevented a lot of sadness early on.”
— Married Woman
Let’s be real for a second.
Most of us don’t ignore red flags because we don’t see them. We ignore them because we explain them away.
We tell ourselves:
“They didn’t mean it like that.”
“I just need to be more patient.”
“Nobody’s perfect.”
“At least they’re trying.”
So we minimize what feels off, rush past the yellow flags, and then wonder why we end up drained, confused, or questioning ourselves.
This deck exists to interrupt that pattern, without shaming you and without pretending love is supposed to be easy all the time.
“It was the reflection I didn’t know I needed.”
— Single Woman
What’s inside the deck
This deck doesn’t whisper. It calls things what they are.
Inside are 54 cards designed to help you spot patterns, check your boundaries, and stop lying to yourself “for the sake of love.”
Because clarity changes the way we choose.
Here’s what you’ll be working with:
Red Flags - The Wake Up Call
Identify the red flags you’ve been explaining away.
You already know something feels off. You’ve just been talking yourself out of it.
You say, “That’s just how they are.” “Maybe I’m being dramatic.” “It’s not that deep.”
These cards are here to lovingly say: it is that deep.
These cards name the toxic behaviors you need to stop tolerating, at all cost.
Yellow Flags - Wait a Minute Now
Proceed with caution and reassess the relationship.
You’re not sure if it’s a dealbreaker. But something’s telling you to slow down.
These cards help you pause, reassess, and have the conversations you’ve been avoiding.
Yellow flags invite real conversations, clearer boundaries, and honesty with them and yourself.
Green Flags - Healthy Looks Good on You
See the green flags, so you stop being surprised by basic decency.
These cards show you what healthy actually looks like.
Because healthy love isn't just about finding the right person. It starts with recognizing what right actually feels like.
You deserve a love that's steady, safe, and mutual. And it starts here.
“The card deck does a great job of calling out real relationship patterns while mixing honesty and reflection in a way that feels personal and practical.”
— Single Woman + Mental Health Therapist
Ways to Use the Deck
No rules. Just intention and finally some clarity.
You’ve been carrying confusion that was never yours to carry. Pull a card. Name it. Choose better. Here’s how people are using the deck:
Date Night Conversations
Pull a card to spark deeper conversations on your next date. No awkward small talk. Just real ones.
Couples Check-Ins
Reflect on patterns in your relationship and talk through them together. Comfortable confusion ends here.
Personal Reflection and Journaling
Pull a card and sit with it. Write through the prompt. Explore what comes up because sometimes the most important conversation is with yourself. The clarity will surprise you
Group Conversations
Perfect for workshops, small groups, or real conversations with your girls. This work is better together.
Therapy or Coaching Sessions
Therapists and coaches can use the cards to guide conversations and help clients explore relationship patterns with language that actually lands
There’s no “right” way to use the deck. Just an honest one.
Here’s what happens when someone uses the deck for the first time.
They go through each card and analyze their relationship. Then they lay all the cards out.
More red flags than green. They’re able to see it now.
No explanation needed. No second-guessing. Just:
“Oh. That's why that relationship didn’t work out.”
That moment of clarity that some people spend years searching for? This deck creates it in one sitting. This deck is for individuals and couples. And even for the therapists who are ready to dive in with their clients.
Are you a therapist, practice owner, or organization?
The Untoxicify Your Relationship card deck can be used in therapy sessions, group settings, and workshops. The tool helps your clients see unhealthy relational patterns in themselves and others.
We offer bulk pricing for practices and organizations. There’s also a Nonprofit Partner Package for organizations that are tax-exempt.
Looking to go deeper? We offer an organizational workshop to help your team implement the UYR framework with their clients.
Ready for your organization to Untoxicify your clients?
The pattern stops here.
Every day you spend confused is a day you could have had clarity. The situationships and almost relationships are clouding your judgment!
The Untoxicify Your Relationship card deck is only $40. That’s less than what you spent trying to figure out someone who was never worth figuring out.
If you're tired of explaining away red flags, rushing past yellow ones, or not even knowing what healthy love looks like, this deck was made for you.
Pull a card. Name it. Choose better.
Allow 2 weeks for shipping. Cards are printed in batches locally in St. Louis, MO.